Scary unplanned events tend to add enormous stress to our lives as well as teach us a few things. And COVID-19 quarantine is not an exception. (My family and I are lucky because we can stay home, work remotely, and have access to a nearby trail. I understand that not everyone is so fortunate.)
The first few weeks of the quarantine were stressful and scary. Not knowing what we are dealing with and how it will affect our society was scary. Also, trying to figure out what to do with children while I was trying to work added to my anxiety.
Now, we are five weeks into the quarantine, and I am starting to get a handle on things as well as learning more about myself.
I enjoy staying at home.
Before, I would never think of myself as someone who loves to stay at home. I consistently went out, meet up with friends and family, and attended children's events. Spending time at home felt almost like a waste because there were so many things to see and do.
Now, though, I am catching myself on enjoying a housewife lifestyle. I am glad to have time during a day to clear out the dishwasher, start laundry, bake cookies with kids, or clean up after kids (never-ending ordeal). It might not sound like fun to many people; neither is it for me, but at least these items do not pile up to ruin my weekends.
Now, instead of two days, I have seven days to complete my housework and catch up with the family. There is more time to read to kids or play games. There is more time to chill watching cartoons or go for a stroll.
And one of the best parts of each day - I do not have to drive! I save at least two hours every day. Just think about it, I gained 10 hours a week to take care of myself and my family. Amazing.
I am an introvert.
I always thought of myself as a people person. Maybe not necessarily a true extrovert but somewhere on the scale. It turns out that I am a busy introvert. Now, I always find things to do, whether it is housework, children, hobbies, or self-care. I fill up my schedule with tasks to accomplish and never feel lonely or bored.
Yes, of course, I miss face-to-face time with my friends and family, but I am not suffering. I chat with them over the phone, set up video calls, and stay connected.
I am thrilled that hugs and kisses are things of the past.
Are you a person who enjoys hugging and kissing people when you see them? If yes, I feel for you (well, not really). Our society will not be shaking hands, embracing, hugging, and kissing for a while. And I am happy about that.
I am not trying to say that I am happy that COVID-19 came around. No. But I am hoping that after this, we, as a society, will be more aware of personal space and the need to protect ourselves and others.
I have more time to do what I want.
It took me some time, but I figured out how to find time for myself. With no outside plans at night, I can have a "spa" evening, or "attend" a late-night yoga class, or go to "movies." And yes, a lot of these activities happen after kids go to bed, but at least they happen. The circumstances of the quarantine are sad, but the sudden confinement is not.
All I want to say is try to find positive things that come with our sad situation: enjoy your family, try online yoga or cooking class, maybe start gardening or finish that book. Whatever it is that you have/want to do, do it while staying positive and safe, and do not hesitate to reach out for help.